Dating Nightmares Are To Be Avoided
Posted by Alan Bentley | Filed under Self Improvement
We are told that the there is somebody for everyone out in that real world and there are plenty of fish in the sea and so on. If you think about this logically for a moment then you could easily be scared off by the tremendous difficulties awaiting you as you go out into the dating environment. How many dating nightmares have we had as we try and find the right guy? Even so, with a correct approach we can try and ensure success the next time.
If you wake up in a cold sweat when thinking about those dating nightmares, you might be tempted just to stay in bed, but really trying to find somebody new can be a lot of fun. Never judge anyone by their cover and look forward to the discovery of it all, but by all means make some significant decisions during your first date and make a good assessment of what this guy is all about, deep down.
If you come across a guy who is completely egocentric, who only wants to talk about himself and what he has done or is going to do, just imagine what kind of a one-sided relationship this might be in the future. Pay close attention to whether he actually listens to what you are saying when you are talking or is just preparing his next personal diatribe as soon as you take a breath.
Avoid the guy who is on the rebound like the plague. All he’s doing is trying to attend to his own feelings and is not likely thinking much about yours. A guy who is on the rebound is one of the worst dating nightmares that you can encounter, as he is invariably trying to show you off as a trophy of war in front of his ex!
The organizational types are all very well, so long as they’re not obsessive-compulsive and unlikely to change. If you come across one of these dating nightmares, you should run the other way as quickly as you can, unless of course you really like the thought of being micromanaged and organized yourself. You will find that too much emphasis is placed on technicalities, meanings and philosophies and less emphasis on the pure fun of life.
Don’t be tempted to rush to judgment or to want to find out everything that you can about the guy on your first meeting. You will want to see that he is stable, his finances are okay and that you can at least have an equitable arrangement between you. You won’t be too impressed if he makes you pay for dinner the first time, will you, and while it is perfectly okay to share, you might expect him to do the right thing on this first occasion. Freeloaders are some of the worst dating nightmares as well.
Are you looking for somebody to complement your personality or do opposites attract? The chances are that you like someone who has well-rounded interests and is likely to be fun to hang around with. If your man interest has a personality of a wet mop, you would be better off staying at home in front of the TV.
Life might seem like a roller coaster ride and your relationships even more so, but it should not be as difficult as that. Just be philosophical, avoid the dating nightmares and understand that false stats are just part of the game. You will get there in the end!
Writer Alan Bentley has a lot of material to help you avoid dating nightmares. A great resource can be found at at www.cracktheguycode.com.
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