Sick And Tired Of Life
Posted by Ayo Olaniyan | Filed under Self Improvement
There are many of us who feel sick and tired of our lives. The phrase sick and tired in the context of this post is an expression or a feeling of discouragement, dissatisfaction and frustration with several issues of concern in the journey of life. You become sick and tired of life, events, people and everything around you when your expectations, needs, goals, dreams etc are not achieved, appear worthless or fall short of your imagination.
The emotional responses to being sick and tired are anger, depression, fear, worry…….. The aim of this post is to offer a few suggestions that could shed some light in those dark areas of your life, which could result in motivating you, boosting your energy levels, point you in the direction of hope, inner peace and strength( physical/spiritual).
There are several events/things that could make you feel sick and tired of life such as:
Failure. Broken Relationships. Communication breakdown. Increased workloads Dealing with your weaknesses and insecurities. Procrastination. Fear. Job Losses The Media Over analyzing events, situations or what’s been said. Managing a family The Economic Climate. Financial responsibilities Crime rate
The list is endless.
There isn’t a fixed method/routine for coping with undue pressures when you feel sick and tired of life issues, but here are a few practical suggestions:
Examine your life
In examining your lifestyle, there is a need to look at how you arrived at where you are currently, the experiences you’ve had in the past/present, your goals, aspirations, ambitions and most of all the difficulties encountered in the journey of life. You also need to understand the importance being realistic with your expectations, making a conscious decision not to create unnecessary pressure through several activities you are involved in and finally, dealing with the challenges that come your way.
Work on your attitude
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference” - Winston Churchill
Your attitude contributes to the level of success attained. It also makes a difference or improves the way you work, manage your time, communicate, build relationships and deal with the issues of life. Your attitude determines how you respond to challenges, whether you rise or fall, what experience can be gained from living a life filled with purpose. A positive attitude enhances optimism, helps you manage worries and conditions your thoughts. Developing a positive attitude is a post on it’s own but a brief summary of its benefits are as follows:
It aids your success. It creates a level of inspiration and motivation. It allows you overcome various difficulties. It helps you in achieving your goals. It allows you communicate effectively.
Express your frustrations
Sharing your experiences or difficulties with a network of trusted friends/family provides a form of relief when you feel sick and tired. Remember, there are several ways to resolve different issues and learning from the experiences of others could reduce stress levels and bring about happiness. Be around people you are accountable to, who won’t withhold any form of encouragement from you or keep you at arms length as you share your frustrations.
Regain control
There are a few instances, were you become sick and tired of life when you notice you don’t have any control of the situation at hand. You lose your mind, sleep, becomes anxious for everything. Things generally, just spiral out of control. Sometimes your level of frustration reduces the moment you figure out a way to gain control by being realistic, thoughtful, optimistic, collaborating with people and accepting the situation.
Rest
Form the habit of relaxing in order to reduce your levels of anxiety and worry. Your mind could wander into past events, causing sleepless nights, poor diets, frequent headaches, etc. In order to gain control of your emotions and combat the feeling of being sick and tired, wherever you find yourself, resting can’t be overlooked. Take time out to sleep properly, laze around, listen to music or have some form of leisure activity.
Look at your options
Learn to investigate or think deeply about the possible ways of resolving the problem The more options you have for dealing with negative situations, the less sick and tired you become.
Be strong and confident
Learning to handle difficulties in a matured manner equips you with the appropriate mindset to see things moving in a positive direction. You are able to deal with challenges this way because you refuse to allow pessimism cloud your thoughts. Being strong requires determination, decisiveness and the will power to keep your focus on the results you intend to achieve.
Seek Professional Help
Employing the services of a counsellor, coach, psychotherapist etc could be effective in dealing with the feeling of being sick and tired. If you sense the need for professional advice, do not hesitate to call or visit your local GP, professional counsellor or psychotherapist.
Do some stress relief activities
There are several stress relief activities you can perform such as:
Breathing Exercises Walking Listening to music Swimming Having a coffee or lunch break.
These and a lot more are several ways of dealing with the feeling of being sick and tired.
I look forward to your comments and suggestions.
Ayo Olaniyan is a certified Unitive Life Coach and Counsellor. He is a member of the EMCC, an accredited professional counsellor with the Counselling Society.You can visit the blog Discovering Purposeto read or subscribe to personal development articles. Building a purpose driven life through personal development.
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Belief
Posted by Dr. Jay Polmar | Filed under Writing & Speaking
Beliefs determine how we see, interact and feel the world around us. Beliefs are ideas that are formed after repetition and contemplation that are accepted as truth and reality and therefore impact how we see life.
Belief and knowledge are often in conflict. The difference might be subtle, but significant. Knowledge is something that you and others, who might be considered experts in that field, consider to be true and there is reasonable, plausible, and provable scientific explanation for that wisdom.
A belief on the other hand is founded on personal experience or faith.
To many people require you to accept their belief based on blind faith. Belief is not a fact and therefore usually not provable beyond a shadow of a down.
Remember, its wasnt long ago that people believed the world is flat, and that we thought women were witches, hunted them down, and then burned them.
Welcome to belief, which is based on superstitions, or blindness.
Ignorant humans who once believed that the Earth was the center of the universe, and that it was flat. Really demonstrated that what really was FLAT was the human ability to think outside the box and perceive something that others could not observe.
When scientists discovered great things, hundreds of years ago, they were imprisoned, tortured and murdered. The Catholic Church did not want people to see clearly, and therefore stopped the voices of these researchers.
Actually, during that time in history it was thought to be common knowledge that these ancient flat world beliefs were true. Even though humankind was sincere in its ignorant beliefs, those beliefs were false and by not believing as the others told you to, you were subject to arrest, imprisonment, and torture which often lead to death.
Times have changed. Today, things that you believe have changed, and you may believe in something so firmly that you count it as knowledge. When, in fact, there may be considerable evidence from the past experience that a particular belief is a truth,” its only truth for you from your personal experience. Just because you believe it is true, does not make it true. Although it might become a truth for you personally, by believing it you are limiting yourself by holding on to self-limiting beliefs.
The trick is to pull back the veneer and see the real truth. That is one that is universal and does not need to be believed, it just is. These are referred to as universal truths. They exist and work beyond our own self-limiting beliefs. They shape and work through the universe and in our lives.
Gravity is a truth. Believe in it or not” its still a real truth. If you drop something it will fall to the ground. If you trip, and fall, you could hurt your butt. You can only fall DOWN you’ll never fall up.
Now this is only a truth that exists here on Earth under normal circumstances. There are other forces that can resist this law such as a strong wind. You may have been programmed since childhood to conceive things that you thought to be true ” but, once you realized that they were not true, you may have wondered why you wasted time and energy believing in them at all.
Take the case of Santa Claus. You thought that he was real. You believed that by some mystical miracle he went around the world in one night and brought presents to every well-behaved child. You may have further believed that he ate the burnt cookies you left for him and he drank that horrible lactose free milk. You believe that it was all related to your doing good things and not bad things, and that Santa was well, almost like God!
There was potent evidence to your faith:
Your parents told you he was real. (You trusted your parents without question)
The cookies were eaten and the milk glass was empty. Also the crumbs disappeared.
There were gifts under the Christmas tree in the morning.
You saw Santa at the mall, and you had a picture of Santa to prove it.
Your friends believed in him also.
All of this evidence pointed toward knowledge, you just knew he existed. It pointed to a truth in that not only did you know he existed, everyone around you knew also. This belief as you found out was not true. It had shaped your view of the world as a child and still may have a lingering impact on your current belief system.
The point is that there are other things that you may think are true, but are not. You have been told things all your life for a variety of reasons: to make you feel better, to be funny, to hurt you, because other people believed it was true, and for other noble and not so noble reasons. You made the choice whether to believe what was being told you. You weighed this information and decided whether it fit or not into your already existing belief system. You either rejected the idea straight out, accepted it as part of what you already believed, or it changed your belief system.
Beliefs are very powerful, and they do shape our reality. If you believe in something strong enough, it becomes real in your life. There is a universal law that states that likes attract like. If you believe in something strong enough it not only becomes your reality, it attracts similar things to your life.
Suppose you believe you are clumsy. Your parents said you were clumsy, your coach as school did and so did your friends. They told you that you were an accident waiting to happen. You thought this to be true. Your whole life you tripped over your shadow. Not only did you believe this, but you also created that reality and circumstances of being clumsy.
Examine your beliefs and draw back the veil. Well, Ill be. They seem to have repeatedly hypnotized me to trip myself up — all my life” well, Ill be! And, then” you dont have to be! Its all your belief.
Dr. Jay Polmar, author of Thinkright, was a teacher and instructor at colleges and universities in the Southwest and Hawaii about the quality and power of Thought being an active force in creating the quality of your life. Learn more in Thinkright.
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